Happy Sunday! Here are some quotes with which I resonated over the week.
"Failure is a part of life we have little choice over. Learning from failures, on the other hand, is optional. We have to choose to learn. We must consciously opt to do things differently — to tweak and change until we actually get the result we're after. But that's hard."
Ryan Holiday (The Daily Stoic, June 22nd)
"Distrust your first instinctive impression. Our first natural reaction in a disagreeable situation is to be defensive. Be careful. Keep calm and watch out for your first reaction. It may be you at your first, not your best." Dale Carnegie
"A comment I heard from a member of the audience after a lecture illustrates the difficulty of distinguishing memories from experiences. He told of listening reptly to a long symphony on a disc that was scratched near the end, producing a shocking sound, and he reported that the bad ending "ruined the whole experience." But the experience was not actually ruined, only the memory of it. The experiencing self had had an experience that was almost entirely good, and the bad end could not undo it, because it had already happened. My questioner had assigned the entire episode a failing grade because it had ended very badly, but that grade effectively ignored 40 minutes of musical bliss. Does the actual experience count for nothing?"
In the last section of his book Thinking Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman talks about how everybody has two selves - the experiencing self and the remembering self. The experiencing self goes through experiences in the moment, and the remembering self reminisces past experiences.
"Take comfort: No one actually knows what the hell they're doing. Everyone is working off their current best guess."
"Always leave room for the unexpected. A buffer of time, a little extra money, a reserve of goodwill. You won't be maximizing every opportunity or squeezing out every last dollar, but what you lose in reward, you gain in safety. Survival is the highest return of all."
Thanks for reading. Cheers!